15 things you can do for someone with endometriosis

Talking with my fiancé and other loved ones has shown me that Endometriosis is extraordinarily hard for family and friends.  It is miserable looking at your wife, or girlfriend, sister, or friend… and not knowing what to do.  There is no cure for Endometriosis; surgeries can alleviate pain, pain medications can make daily life semi-bearable.  But for those of you who aren’t doctors–what can you do?  Trust me, there’s a lot.

1 Run her a hot bath and add epsom salts or lavender soak.

2 Do her grocery shopping.

3 Clean her house. (We always need help with this one)

4 Offer to give her a shoulder & back massage.

5 Tell her you are so proud of her, she is brave and tough, and you are amazed at her strength.

6 Cook meals for her.

7 Drive her to doctor appointments and surgeries!

Buy her a heating pad.  If she already has one, get it ready for her and let her know.

Simply ask her if there’s anything you can do.
Pick up her medication at the pharmacy.  Argue with the doctor and pharmacist if necessary (this may get you extra points).
Understand if she has to cancel plans.  Endometriosis does not care about plans or movie dates.  She does, but she cannot help it.
Let her know you are thinking about her, praying for her, etc.  It will mean the world to her!
Hugs, hugs, hugs!

Bring home/buy/download a comedy film for her.  Laughter will be her saving grace, I promise.
Come to her doctor appointment with her, ask questions, and listen.  It’s one of the best ways you can show your support.
Above all, remember to be patient.  We do not choose our illness.  Plans will be cancelled, tantrums may be thrown.  It is difficult for everyone involved.  If you can tell she’s have a particularly hard day, give her a hug and let her know you’re proud of her.  Let her know that you understand.  Tell her you are amazed by her strength.  It will make a difference–you’ll be surprised.

If you or someone you know has Endometriosis, feel free to leave a comment with more ideas on how to help those who are suffering.  The more we communicate, the easier our fight becomes.  I hope everyone is having a great evening.  Remember to breathe, and you are not alone.